T’is the season for transition! If you allow it so, life could be all about self-discovery, self-growth, and self-healing. This is the perfect time to be alive! In the midst of all the change, let’s not forget about the best part of upgrading to a new you: letting go.
Okay, okay…it’s not a favorable part of the process; but the letting go step of life, truly is the best part because it makes you stronger than imaginable!
To let go means to release yourself of something or someone that is holding you back from your potential. This part of life is a process that everyone struggles with. Why? BECAUSE WE LIKE BEING COMFORTABLE! Some people are okay with tolerating certain nuisances in their life as long as it means that their life is not flipped upside down, and swayed into the unknown. Just because the tower card comes your way it doesn’t mean that your life is turning for the worst. It simply means that some being has heard your desires to be and do better, and thinks YOU ARE READY! Woohoo! You have made it to the next step!!
Letting go always brings fear to the table. These are the most common anxieties about freeing yourself:
P: “What if the unknown will lead me down a terrible path?”
A: What have you been wishing for? If you wish to conquer the world, well that’s quite a few people you have to go through. If you’re looking for strength, you will have already proven yourself strong by letting go. Life won’t be full of daisies and rainbows after this step (in this particular goal). In fact, life might be an uphill battle from then, just to make sure you become stronger than you imagined. That’s a great thing about life! You should thrive in the fact that the Universe is giving you exactly what it knows you can conquer.
P: “What if I hurt others along the way?”
A: The decision to make at the end of the day is controlled by YOU. I can list a multitude of scenarios that may happen or already have, but in the end, you are in charge of your path and your growth. If you find yourself on the fence of emotions, consider this question: “Who are you being more considerate towards? Yourself or others?” It’s always a great thing to give to others; however you can not live a life being inconsiderate to yourself. What about your needs? Your dreams? Your sanity? How much of yourself can you give away, until you realize you’ve exhausted everything you were? You are important too! Life is a give and take!
P: “But I love them!”
A: It’s always okay to love someone. ALWAYS. It is important to remember that love is a HEALTHY phenomenon! Love exists in many spaces. And if you need more space now than you did before, then it is time to give your emotions somewhere to breathe! WE let go of things in our lives, even people in order to clear our path and see a better road for ourselves, and oftentimes, for the other person.
Parents, know that your children will always be your kin. But your children will not always be kids. Unfortunately, we humans are not as skilled at surviving on our own immediately after birth. That is why children must understand that it’s hard for parents to let go! Parents have cared for fragile minds and bodies for way too long. After a while, over-nurturing may become second nature. Life-bearers, when children finally leave the nest, it’s not because they don’t love you. Instead it is because they are off to find other things and people to love, in addition to you! You can never forget that, because you, too, have done that to your parents.
Lovers, if you are trying to let go of each other, but absolutely CAN NOT, think about the previous question: “Are you being so considerate of others, that you are being inconsiderate to yourself?” Are you giving so much of yourself, that you are not getting enough? Are you taking too much, and leaving your significant other drained? Are you listening to each other? Love grows, and for some, love always remains, even when the relationship has ended. That is okay! You are doing yourself and your other a great justice by allowing yourselves to find a better path by releasing your pain. In the end of the day, it’s up to you to determine if the battle is worth fighting.
P: “I have an addiction! How can I let that go?”
Some demons are harder to chase away than others. That doesn’t mean it’s impossible. We have an entire society built on helping those who need a little extra push. Find the right community that wants to help you. Just remember! Universe wants to help you. You have to want to help you too!
Letting go is a process that we all have to go through..again..and again. It’s what forces us to get serious about our lives and the lives we care about. WE are not meant to be stagnant beings! We all struggle to let go of something. This is a normal process as long as we work towards breaking these chains.
I used to struggle with letting go of unhealthy relationships, because I thought that was what I deserved. With time, I began to question myself: Why am I going through this? What do I really want? What is holding me back, and why? Most importantly, who am I? I realized I was the problem. Then I realized my relationships were tearing me down because I didn’t give myself the credit to be loved the way that I truly love others. I let go, and found greater opportunities, stronger friendships, and progressive relationships because the Universe did not want me to settle for less than I am!