Nothing is worse than NEVER feeling comfortable in your own skin.
We all have our flaws and wonderful qualities about ourselves that make us who we are. These many aspects about ourselves make it easier for other beings to identify us (each in a distinct way than another may describe). The coolest thing about being who you are, is that you are not just one person! You can be a tasteful jerk in the eyes of one person, and a complete angel to someone else. In the end of the day, the real identity lies in the person you choose to be. So choose that persona well, and never forget to grow, and become more and more of who you aim to be!
Never make your identity conform to your insecurities.
Your insecurities are not who you are.
Instead your insecurities are who you are afraid to be. Don’t let your fears hold you back from being who you believe in. You are doing yourself an injustice for having so many limitations on the wonderful person you can be. You are also doing your loved ones an injustice by: 1. never meeting the potential they know you have, 2. not loving yourself more than they love you, and 3. because you will lash out on the very people you love. If you allow it, fear will overcome any positive reasoning you have to express love and to be loved.
I get it! We all come from a past of pain. That’s life. However, the next step of life is to grow past that pain by taking in any lessons you can, and being a change for your future. You are in control of your personality, by how you decide to live, to breathe, to be, and to connect. There will always be more obstacles to bypass, but you should never allow yourself to say no, because your anxieties say you’re not that person.
You are who you want to become.
Do not insist on taking the backseat while your anxieties take you right off the cliff. Your anxieties are not who you are. They are a bump in the road! They challenge you! They dare you to go after what you deserve! They are not you! Take that power back and become that very thing they told you not to be!
Free your mental state and figure out what makes you tick, and sing, and smile! Think about the very things and people that you enjoy the most! What do you love about them? Because that too is in you! Life forces you to stumble upon people who open your mind to the other forms of identities that you already possess! That’s a lot of identities! Do you know why? You get to choose from all of these identities to define the great BEING that you are becoming!
Think about being a kid and having an adult role model, whether that may be, your parent, a superstar, or a specific career. Innocent spongey YOU will then take their qualities personally, and make it a part of who you are. That is the beautiful thing of becoming yourself!
Your personality is right in front of your face!
You live an entire lifetime putting together all of the puzzle pieces of distinct personalities so that you have a big picture of YOU! Sometimes the pieces don’t fit, and you have to change your mind, and find another piece that fits even better. That’s cool! The completed portrait is what you believe in! Do not leave this world, knowing you stopped working on your own beautiful puzzle because you allowed your insecurities to be the parasite of your corpse. You are better than anything that tries to put you down! Live up to your own creation!