DON’T DO IT!!
Life is scary for a hopeless romantic! You darling souls are just looking for something to love, and end up treading through some really dark places to find it! Having all the love in the world to give, and no one to give it to is truly a burden…until you realize that you should direct all of that love and passion towards yourself!
I am not a love-hater by any means. However, I see too many lovely people get crushed because they decided to love the wrong people. What could be the cause of having rose shades in the face of someone so wretched? A lot of you loving beings see the love and beauty in people who are just ugly on the inside! “But what if I fix them and turn them into the beautiful being I see them as? They too have greatness!” There’s your problem, hopeless romantic! Your significant others should not be your science experiment! We are all capable of doing great and terrible things! The potential of a being is that wonderful or horrid thing that a person has yet to become. The fate of a person is relative, based on whether or not they choose to move at all.
Do Not Look For the Potential Of Someone!
People don’t want to change, unless they are absolutely ready to. Unfortunately, your endless stream of love can not immediately convince someone to be the better part of themselves. We all have a potential to fill. That does not mean that every human on this planet is going to reach their potential. That being said, be careful of whom you decide to love! You are a beautiful creature who does not need to go through so much emotional trauma in order to prove to yourself that someone is out there for you.
Never date or become emotionally attached to someone that does not feel okay with themself. People who do not know how to love themselves, do not know how to love others in a healthy fashion. The fate of your romance can go in a million directions, and you, hopeless romantic, will be hurt.
No one is perfect; but some individuals are simply not compatible with you. It’s absolutely dire to find a significant other that is on the same level as you. When I say level, I mean, make sure you two are working for the same thing! There is no “I” in “team!” If you (or the significant other) are not okay to be by yourself, then you are not ready to be with someone. That means you haven’t given yourself the opportunity to find out what makes you special, and thus deserving of the amazing love that someone is willing to share with you! Sharing in a relationship is quite literally caring! There has to be a balance of give and take within yourself, as well as in your relationship.
I emphasize that it is important to not fall for someone’s potential because as the lover, you are falling for the idea of someone. The idea of a person is not their identity. A relationship comes with understanding the good, bad and quirky parts of a person, and feeling love for all of those characteristics. If you can’t get along with someone’s demons, then a happy relationship won’t work. If you’re anything like me, and prefer to exorcise your lover’s burdens, you should probably take a step back as well. People are not going to change unless they are absolutely willing to.
The greatest love that you can give is to yourself, so that you can understand what it means to fully love. Lust is not love. Neither is blindsight. Do not fall for what you perceive in someone. Instead see a suitor for who they truly are, and you may…or may not truly fall for them.
May you find the perfect suitor for your perfect love.