Being alone isn’t the worst thing to happen to you.
It’s a necessary loss, because you gain more once giving up what you no longer need. Isolation is simply another moment of time. Do you remember when you thought you needed someone else to fulfill this one thing that you desire so much? Yeah, well being alone will show you that you had that spice all along. All you needed was enough clarity to see your own reflection.
Oftentimes we go into temporary stages of our life in order to get something out of it. We get intoxicated to have a better time than we’re having. We fall in love to experience the peak of sensuality. Then, we isolate ourselves to rejuvenate our minds.
Being alone isn’t a permanent situation for most of us. It’s a necessary stage that we all have to go through more than a few times in our lives. In this phase, we need to step back, looking at the world from the outside, rather than joining in the waves of chaos. Once you step out of the sphere of communal chaos, turn around. There, you are entering your personal avatar state. Most of us…don’t know how to be alone. There is nothing wrong with something that you were never taught to do. It, however, is never too late to figure it out.
Being alone is hard to do at first, because we were raised in a series of communities. Human interaction helps us become socially compatible, identify multiple personalities, understand common problem solving skills, and motivates us to desire. A community serves its role to give you many examples of what a reality could look like. Isolation gives you the power to decide what your reality will look like. Genuine introspection requires you to follow a path that no one else can take for you or with you. It forces you to find your answers from within. Feeling lost is okay. It is a part of life. Feeling lonely is just a process you go through before you realize a world stands grounded in your own mind.
It’s important to know how to live life for you. Most of the time, we tend to forget what we’re really living for. Instead, we may live for the survival of others, for the plan other people have for you, for some miniscule guarantee, or maybe even out of fear of loss. Isolation itself is a lack of all of these purposes. Instead, you have to create your own purpose, uninfluenced by anyone else around you. This is a different source of power. You are a creator, by your own will.
When the moment comes for you to be alone, give yourself a lot of time and follow these procedures. Some may be easier to do than others:
- Accept isolation; you are in control of your thoughts
- Think about what made you isolated at this time; what are you missing INSIDE?
- Play music; use all kinds of genres to guide you through your emotions
- Exercise/meditate to keep your mind and body stimulated
- Think about your life’s problems; think about all the possible solutions
- Create a world in your mind- in what role do you see yourself in?
- Believe! Your thoughts are your first steps to manifesting your world
- Live a life for you! Take everything you learned on your journey and live!
Once you step back into the sphere, you will understand that the world you thought you knew so well is much different.
It stinks being alone…until you realize you have more freedom in deciding your life’s goals, your personal desires, and your power to be who you want to be. People influence us in ways to inspire what we want. Never allow that guidance to confuse you with a path that YOU have not decided for yourself.
There are many things in life that may ignite fear. Ourselves should not be one of those factors. Take some time to be by yourself a few times in your life. If you can have a relationship with a job, a relative, or a lover, you can definitely have a genuine relationship with yourself. Your path will become clearer after you acknowledge that what began as discomfort, became your best friend.