Feeling Disconnected? Be the Empathizer

What is the best way to control the masses? Divide and conquer.

You are a mediator of life, death, and everything in between. You are simply unaware of the fact that you have control of these qualities. As humans, we experience many emotions like unity, loneliness, detachment, and creativity. We encounter events like the birth of a child, an idea, a relationship, and the death of all these alike. Fear is consumed by strength and peace. If we can unintentionally stumble upon these variations of human existence, then how have we not harvested it to help each other?

We are disjointed limbs of a very fragile body. We are that arm, ligament, or organ that lacks acknowledgement of the fact that we are something grander once the connection is made. Think about the people you’ve helped in your life. Is it not rewarding to see the joy and gratification emanate off the face of another, after you have given them a piece of your energy (that may be time, emotional support, a gift, etc.)?

As you give to other people, you are giving to yourself…

You are never alone. 

Do you remember those times when you stood in a crowd of people and felt as if not even a speck of dust thought twice about you being there? Do you remember those times spent talking to your relative, friend, or significant other, and you realized they weren’t actually listening to you? Do you remember your last argument when your accuser didn’t acknowledge the reasons why you were neurotic, and lashed out to you with an irrelevant topic to probe you on?

These situations occur, not because you are alone. We simply are… disconnected.

It’s time to get back to the language of love.

Love is not limited to just something platonic or romantic. Love speaks on different levels. Love is also that beautiful flower that coincidentally smacked you in the face from a soft breeze. Love is the silent conversation you have with someone who understands that communication exceeds the body. Love is an unfathomable empathizer that keeps you dreaming of MORE! 

Because love comes in varying forms, it’s important to understand that there exists various ways to express it. THE BEST WAY TO EXPRESS YOUR LOVE IS THROUGH EMPATHY.

It is one thing to feel love for another being. It is another to make sure the love felt is interconnected, like a phone line. These days people get so caught up with the idea of love, and not the actuality of love, it’s almost as if we’re using telegraphs in the 21st century. How many millennials know how to use those?! I don’t!

It’s time to step back from the ideas everyone puts in our heads about love. Be the empathizer. You know that you love someone. How do they know? 

A wise woman named Gisele once told me, if I am grieving from the loss of a loved one, people will be too caught up in their own discomfort to ask me what I really need in order to feel better.

When talking about sex to one’s potential partner, most people like to have the “kink talk”. So what do you like…and how do you like it?

We are disconnected from one another, because we forgot that love is not a one-way street. It is a circuit of electrical pulses, spiraling from one end to another. Understand the way someone wants to feel love, and support. Do they like listening to you speak your mind, or would they prefer longing stares. Is it opposite to what you would like? Are they willing to speak your language? Are you willing to be skilled in the arts of empathy?

There are too many variations of love in the world to choose one or two kinds. There are so many ways to express your love in these degrees of fondness, yet alternative ways to make sure the message is received by the recipient. Do not give all of yourself to someone. You are just as vital! Yet, understand that you are not the only organ in the body. 

We are disjointed as a society because we forgot to feel love. Love is a gift meant to equally receive and give away. Love is the base of everything we are trying to achieve! There must be an ongoing cycle of connection that works together in order to heal the whole body, or the whole force that WE are. Remember to be the empathizer, or the awareness will cease to exist.

You are strong independently, and stronger with support.

Published by Nonna

Inspired by the worlds around me, I'd like to show you all a bit of insight from my corner. Truths are a matter of perspective, and I'd like to get to the bottom of us all. In the end, it is after all, about US!

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