Life is not as complicated as we think it is.
I’ve lived long enough to know one thing: each gender thinks the opposite sex is an unfathomable conundrum. How did we get so far from each other, knowing that we have fallen from the same tree? I am not here to fix this problem. This article is about understanding the female side of things.
As I am a woman, I can not speak for a gentleman when I talk about desires and relational perspectives. I can however tell you about a woman’s.
We women are far more simple than any man wants to admit. Women want to be understood. As long as a man is willing to sit down and ask questions, women will be obliged to answer. After all, humanity thrives on talking about themselves.
Don’t get me wrong, some women are harder to figure out than others. Some women don’t say what they want. But how many women were really taught to speak their truth and know their worth? I surely wasn’t raised like that. I had to figure out how to do that… the hard way. Now that I know who I am and what I am worth, I know how to express what I want.
Most women like myself, want you to eat our delicious food and have intriguing conversations with.
See…this is simple. If you don’t think our food is tasty, your palette is off in our eyes, and you’re just not the one. If you, a potential suitor, engage in conversation…frequently; then you will learn everything you need to about your lady…Including the fact that we value consistency!
Consistency is key in the minds of all women! You can’t think that witches are cool once I tell you I’m one, then run for hills after witnessing me meditate. You can’t act like a cool guy, if you’re not a cool guy. If you’re a dork, be real about being a dork. Women like dorks too. However women don’t like pretenders. If there is one thing women are really good at, it’s paying attention to your consistency. If you can’t keep up with your own facade, we’ll know from the moment that you start slipping. So save us all from wasted time and be yourself… or not present at all.
One more thing! Women are attracted to people who know themselves! I can not stress how important it is to be in a relationship where both parties are aware of who they are! Being secure in yourself influences you to be secure in your partner!
I’ll say it again for the back of the room: Being secure in yourself influences you to be secure in your partner!
If you don’t know who you are, there will be problems ahead. You will make an entire mess of your future relationship trying to figure yourself out while you’re struggling to catch up with your lover! Save us the heartbreak, and get your shit together before deciding if you’re ready for someone to jump ship and run off into the sunset with you.
Consistency is really one of those innate qualities that a man should understand. However, from previous experience, and witnessing the experiences of others, I can boldly say that none have prevailed at achieving this very thing. It just… makes… sense. If you tell me you’re a squid, I don’t expect you to morph into a pony later on in life, unless you blatantly say “I’ll never be what you expect me to be. I’m always changing!” THEN That would make more sense! It then gives us women the chance to think about whether or not we want to be with a shapeshifter.
If you were to tell me that all men are shapeshifters, I would call you a liar square in your face! One thing that I have also learned is after a period of time, men are set in their ways. Ask any man I’ve dated about the wise advice I’ve given them… They couldn’t tell you, because they weren’t listening. Just like any other human on this planet they must learn for themselves, not because their loving, wise significant others told them.
Long story short, men, you have quite a bit to learn. Women are not what you think we are. We’re not an alien ship with a bunch of foreign buttons. We’re more like a European car, with the wheel on the other side of the vehicle. If you pay close attention, we’ll provide you with the information you need. If you’re being yourself, confident in the person that you are, you’ll find out that women drool too. If you eat our delicious food, we know you’re not going anywhere. And if you are consistent in your actions, words, and personality from the start (seeing as we adore all of those qualities) you’ll succeed at keeping us…almost forever.
You’re welcome.
Nonna 