The nature of human kind is inquired about from the time of our birth. Are we innately good, bad, neutral, or will nurture take its course and shape us accordingly? A conversation for another time pegs one very meticulous answer: We are all born selfish! “Feed me, burp me, clean me.” We have no sense of what to do with another person’s feelings for a very long time. We are born knowing we deserve everything we could possibly need and want.
What happened along the way?
To this day, most people have to fight for the things that they really want. The sad part is, they end up choosing the option that gives them what one feels like they need, rather than deserve. Most people know how to put more care into another person, than within themselves. Despite the fact that we were all born knowing that we’ll get everything we need, most have now matured into beings of lack- unable to trust the possibilities of one’s greatest desires manifesting right in front of them.
You Are Worth It All.
I don’t know where you lost it along the way, but I’m here to tell you that it’s okay to take it back. We all want things. We want and need, and want some more. And we crave it so bad we’d give up an organ for it! What if I told you, the only thing that you have to give up is the tiny voice in your head that says you can’t have it?
When we grew up and realized this world does not surround us, we gained a new sense of service for others rather than ourselves. We call this altruism. This is truly a gift of life. However, most of us have forgotten another wonderful gift: balance. Yin and yang are complete opposites, yet they serve each other well because they eventually become one another to create the beautiful whole. We have learned to be served as an infant and child, we have learned to serve others beyond that point. We understand what other people deserve, yet we have been so off-balance because we forgot WHAT we deserve…even if we wish upon a fallen star every night. Do you feel like you can actually have it? Do you feel like you are in range of achieving it? If it looks farther than you think, then you are not giving yourself the opportunity to understand that what you want is already with you… as it is of you.
What does that mean?
Everything we think of is already a part of our reality. The illusion is thinking those things in your reality are outside of yourself. You might not be able to have it in this very second, but your reality wants you to know that whatever you want is closer than you think. This reality is setting a standard for you. You pick and choose from these as you please.
In a relationship, for example, most of us will go through many suitors to find the one(s) that are up to our standards. It took some time, didn’t it? You first had to understand that you are dateable. Then you had to figure out what you wanted, and what you deserved. And you didn’t stop there. You found a few options, BUT you stuck to your gut, and found the individual(s) that you set your mind to having. You already knew they existed. Why are your passions any different?
Everything we perceive has already been created in our reservoir of desires. Our wants and needs are a little similar to this situation; we first have to know what we want. We then decide that we want these things because we deserve it. The hard part is convincing yourself to actually acquire that which you deserve. You do that by understanding that you already have it..
It already exists for you! You simply have to tap into that reservoir, similar to opening the lid of a well in your backyard. You are thirsty. Like you just spent the last week stranded on the saltiest island, thirsty. Now your back home, and you see everyone else with a fresh glass of water, and you too want that refreshment. Well that’s not hard. Why don’t you just hop into your backyard, and dip into your well. It’s here for you. But it’s not directly in your face. You have to remember that you have a freaking well in your yard! You are abundant in this resource.
It’s hard to know whether you will have something that you deserve if it seems like no one else is acquiring it easily. If you think about it this way, almost everyone around you struggles to truly take care of themselves the way they’d take care of others. Almost everyone around you forgot that they deserve happiness by pursuing the thing that makes them the most happy, because everyone thinks about bills, other people, political issues, then the list goes on. We’re all using these things as a distraction, because it’s easier to pay attention to what’s in front of us, rather than that ideas that we have to find for ourselves. Do not forget that it is always a wonderful thing to give to others, but you must also give to yourself. We have lived life for so long serving others that we have forgotten about the great balance. Now is the time for you to remember that balance.
You are worth everything you want. Release that quibbler that taunts you inside. Get rid of the illusion of lack. Look to your well of abundance. It will always be with you, waiting for you to realize you have the capacity to have it all.
Nonna 