I’ve worked for many years in the service industry. Before getting a wage, I was raised to be of servitude to others. I was made to be concerned for their well being, to find the right solutions to their problems, to be as social or as quiet as they needed me to be, and to grow up knowing that what I do to others, is also what is going to happen to me. I later worked in the serving industry for what felt like too long, and do you know what I learned? No matter how proper or cordial, or concerning I could be for others’ emotions, I’d do myself an injustice for giving up my comfort for their snotty attitudes.
It’s time to make America a better place.
A lot of people in my generation are very polite to those working in the serving industry. I believe that life has taken its own little toll on us, forcing us to open our eyes, and be more aware of the people around us, and the impact we make on them. Most of us had to learn by serving people, so that we can learn to serve ourselves. From working in the restaurant industry, I can say a thing like that is not spared to everyone… and it shows.
Intolerant customers, please understand that your temper might be big. However, your sever’s temper is much stronger. It takes a certain amount of patience to be able to handle the most stubborn of individuals. It also requires thick skin to live life with a big smile, knowing you’ve encountered a lot of boorish individuals. Underneath this thick skin, is one big baby waiting to hulk smash on the one person that wins the biggest asshole award. Most of the time those people are the ones that are closest to us. Clients may know how to annoy you in order to get what they want in a specific setting. Yet, loved ones know how to push the right buttons, to get you to react for their own personal amusement.
Let’s make America a better place:
One.
People, let’s stop trash talking to each other. We all want the same thing. You want to spend your money on something that you deem deserving of your satisfaction. Your server, nurse, telemarketer, IT helper, and many others, want to gain the necessary money to spend it in the same way that you do. This is the cycle of commerce. Now that we know we all want the same thing, it’s about time to be nicer to each other.
Restaurant customers, your servers did not cook your food. Patients, your nurses are not trying to kill you. If that were the case, you might as well ask your server to do surgery on you. Those who take care of you want the best for you, even if they aren’t perfect.
Two.
Be patient with your loved ones. Life is already stressful with money problems, job dramas, a certain sickness in the minds of the people, and the list goes on. There’s no use in putting your personal pressure on the people you love. If you find your loved ones having a negative moment, you should give them exactly that…a moment away from you while they are dealing with life. If you are around someone that continuously pushes buttons… run. There is no moment with them. That is their life! You’ll have to discover whether that is worth the energy and the time you are spending.
Three.
Teach kindness. We get it. Your feelings are hurt, so is his, hers, and everyone else around you. Stop taking on the pain that someone else impeded on you, only to push it in the face of the world. Trust may be hard to go around, but kindness shouldn’t be. It’s time to make this place better by first understanding that we live in a country that accepts a lot of free thinking and diversity. We shouldn’t use these things as a weapon against each other, but instead as a barrier to be united.
We see this division in our outside world, because we are divided in ourselves.
When was the last time you’ve dreamt of something big for yourself? Did you let yourself have it? Did you declare yourself deserving enough to drop what you do or have now, so that you can have that big dream? Or do you perceive a great divide between your dreams and your reality? How is your world any different?
The service industry has taught me many things. The biggest lesson I have learned is that I am worth more than this world gives to me. I then have to gather the strength to give myself what I deserve. It is time that you redirect the service you give, to something much bigger. Your dreams count too.
Make America Better.
We’ve been the superpower for so long, but what are we showing as a society? The same ten songs on the radio, a caricature of the human image, too many false products, and not enough love to go around? That’s insanity.
NO!
This is the new America. We will treat each other divinely, as if we weren’t hurt in the past. We will use our diversity to understand that different perspectives are needed to make a very large picture. We will respect the people that we serve and those that serve us, no matter how miniscule their occupation seems. Every heart matters. We will spread love like it is the shiny new BMW of the century. We will know that love exists in ourselves so abundantly that it can be shared!
This is New America. Here lies the place that the world wants to go to, because we become the superpower of society, the great influencers. We become the revolutionaries the world has been waiting on. We are meant to be the melting pot of the world! That’s what makes a society so great- being one and whole with everyone who wants to be involved.
Nonna 