This society has an identity problem.
What one person can see, another person may not be able to. If an individual is brave enough to share their perception of the elephant (referenced to the tale of the blind men and the elephant), others are usually resistant to their opinion, fearing that someone’s ideas will take over.
In truth we’re all figuring it out…together or by ourselves.
There are no problems with “figuring it out”, except when you’re not being receptive to knowing.
I once had a friend introduce a very intriguing concern of theirs: it seems as if everyone is trying to figure each other out, instead of getting to know the person they’re connecting to.
I had to think long and hard about this. Our society is filled with paradigms that identify and shift cultures, create stigmas and stereotypes, and joke and cry about the differences people have from one another. We’re all trying to figure life out, after all…
Yet, figuring it out might be a problem.
When you walk by a person in the street, the grocery stores, or restaurants, you don’t just look at a person as another comrade human. You profile them! Imagine scenarios of your interaction. Silently comment on their differences. You assume a life that you haven’t inquired about, because you created an idea of whom this person may be without having a single conversation with them.
Are we all that predictable, or do we choose to see other people based on “human pattern”?
The term “human pattern” can be discovered in a number of ways. Do they look like someone you knew? Do they fit a stereotype everyone jokes about? Do they remind you of a past memory? Does their body language, voice, smell or eye contact stand out to you? Do they remind you of the most unfamiliar parts of yourself?
The questions are endless! The human pattern is defined by any source of recognition that your mind creates to make sense of what you have encountered, by going into the files of that which already existed in your memories. Your mind wants you to understand your environment. The conditioning you have experienced all of your life shapes exactly what you’re seeing. It’s time for you to ask why.
We feel the need to disconnect ourselves from others. This disconnection is the motive behind figuring someone out, as well as what makes them so distinct. Yet, if you were to get to know them, your mind will resonate with the similarities between you and that individual.
If you were to look within yourself, what would you see?
The friend I mentioned earlier commented that they felt disconnected from society, because of one’s preconceived notion of the world. My friend felt internally disconnected. They had taken on the idea that everyone aims to figure each other out, instead of trying to know one another. This associate of mine internalized the lack of identity that this society holds.
Do you know yourself? How do you reflect that on your perceptions to the world around you?
The reason why I emphasize the connection and the healing of the mind, body, and soul is because we are not just walking corpses having a physical experience. We internalize our past, make survival-based responses in the present moment, in hopes of continuously improving our future. How can you make a better future for yourself if you are not acknowledging all that you are, and all that you once were? Your past may not be here, but it resonated in your mind, imprinted on your eternal self, so that you may encounter these memories over and over throughout your life in varying instances.
Understanding these connections within your being will help you to overcome the disconnections in yourself. You are meant to know yourself… not figure yourself out. Doing so will allow you to understand that we are all seeing the same thing. One side doesn’t make it the whole scene. Then, you can make the choice to figure out the world around you, or to truly know it.
Do you need help making the connections that truly matter? Nonna is just a message away.