Self-Loathing is Not Cute

I will forever be confused by those romance movies who portray an “amazing love” between a character who clings too hard on another who doesn’t know how to love. In reality, we would consider that to be a very unhealthy relationship. Apart from the level ten clinger who probably has some internal turmoil of the past to discover, I find the “heartless” character to be even more of a concern. 

Self-loathing is not cute…for anyone involved.

Let’s get back to this shielded character. Typically, this one protagonist has a hard time loving themselves and other people because they had a hard past; and now  they carry it over their shoulders, waiting to drop it off on the next poor sop that looks their way. Ouch. They were probably not expecting that.

Despite the fact that they were once a victim of life’s harsher tones, it’s important to understand that one should not remain a victim. Be your own hero, and hopefully even a mentor for those that surround you. 

Everyone has a past. 

We go through varying levels of complications because the universe knows just how strong our spirit is. If we couldn’t handle what happened to us in the past, we would have already been naturally selected. Yet, here you are! Living, breathing, and driving to a better you, whether or not you are fully aware of this! Congrats!!

“So what! Self-loathing is so common!”

Self-loathing is a choice that hurts everyone involved. You are so much stronger than the person you thought you once were. Everyone deserves to be loved, and to have love. Yet, what would your love really feel like, if you were aware of how to express it to yourself? 

Being conditioned in a society that tells us all to give ourselves to everything, we all have a good idea of what altruism means, especially in relationships when you can be the one giving more than receiving.

What about you? Are you giving to yourself?

Self-loathing is a condition that blinds you to the full potential of who you are, and what you can do with the being you are living as. You are standing in your own way of greatness! Of all the voices in your beautiful world, the only thing your mind can pay attention to is “NO”. 

That’s not okay. 

Self-loathing will never allow you to see what you can truly receive, as well as what you can offer. Believe it or not, when you know just what you are worth (which is greatness) you can give so much more than you can imagine! Self-loving attracts abundance like gravity. You become your own planet of everything great, because the answers will turn into “yes” more and more in time!

“So how can I self-love?”

1. Meditate! It’s time for you to start training your mind, to think of all of the positive things about yourself! Look at yourself in the mirror everyday, smile at yourself (even if you don’t mean it at first), and point something out that YOU LOVE!

2. Change your audience! You’re more than likely surrounded by like-minded low vibrating individuals. It’s time to start making new friends! You will notice a difference in the way your lifestyle style changes, and your view of yourself.

3. House cleaning! Take a deep look at your life. If you are tired of being around things that remind you of how much worth you do not have, TOSS IT! It no longer serves you. Don’t be a hoarder of bad energy! It will hurt you more than help you!

4. Forgiveness! As you get rid of the clutter, understand why you don’t need it! Forgive your past, your pains, and yourself. You can’t take it with you. Give yourself a hug every time you re-experience that inner pain. It’s okay now. It can’t hurt you like it did before. 

Now time to Self-Love!

Self-Love is sexy! You can always point out a confident, self-loving individual in a crowd. They ooze with love! Their voice rings, their appearance shines, and you will feel either very attracted to them… or very intimidated. It depends on the demeanor you may have towards them. Don’t think of how much you lack within yourself. You are seeing this individual because that quality exists in you too, even if it’s not dominant in you as yet!

The best romancers are those who know how to romance themselves. They are quite happy being by themselves, but they are more than appreciative of your company! When two are on the same wavelength of gushing charismatic self-loving esteem, the love they have to give to one another, is unlike any other. 

So let yourself love…the way you have never loved before!