Healing Can Be Hard

What do you think of when you see the word healing? 

Doctors? Therapists? Music? What about…you?

Have you ever thought of how much self-healing you experience in your life? A LITERAL CRAP LOAD.

If I had a nickel for every time you healed, I’d have enough money to sit and write to you everyday. 

Your body heals when you scrape your knee, or break a bone. You leave a job, a relationship, or a childhood home, and find comfort in a new one. Your life changes, and then changes again, every time something tragic happens. What you call a new normal, your metaphysical self calls evolution.

As I have said before, people evolve differently. Most of the time, we are so caught up with trying to survive in our own world that we evolve to fit the most appropriate patterns to “fix” our immediate problems, only for another one to arise. It’s almost like adulting were meant to be defined by a series of cyclical problems. I guess that’s why they call it the “rat race”. 

As we are subconsciously healing the real problems, our conscious worry-bug minds are peeling the scabs as we think about the other problems. 

JUST, WAIT A MINUTE!

The whole point of healing is to make decisions based on your most favorable path of life. Let’s say, for example, you use itching cream twice a day. It’s become a routine for you to use itching cream. It’s not a huge inconvenience, but it takes time and energy away from your day. You’re always thinking about that itch, hoping that little shit will one day disappear for good. Sometimes, you get that invisible itch, in a completely different location, as if it were phantom spreading. But the truth is, that itch just needs to heal to truly go away…not a quick fix itching cream. That’s how your mind works when you haven’t healed from childhood trauma, a very dramatic move, a huge disappointment, or even another breakup. 

But who has time to heal when we have so much going on in life…right?!

Sometimes, while we deal with other “immediate” problems, our mind puts a cap on the more serious, underlying pains. That explains why we have memory blocks, or irrational fears. This even applies to the way we shrink or lash out to the common experiences we are faced with on a daily basis. 

But here’s the truth: You’re holding onto something whether or not you are aware of it, and you need to make the energy to heal. You are your biggest hero.  Although the world around you can help you be a little better or worse you, you hold ALL accountability to actively step out of your mind and heal.

Healing can be hard. It takes actual conditioning for you to step into your multi-faceted being and face your biggest fears, disappointments, sorrows, or resentment. Even after you fix one problem, you’ll come to find that healing becomes a chore. There’s always work to do!

Healing is a way for you to evolve. You are always evolving. Therefore, you are worth the inner work out. 

Healing might be hard work, but here are some tips to work with:

1. Surrender and Render: I learned this method of healing once by listening to a spiritual being named Elgear. Find something that haunts you. Face that event, then your emotional reaction to it. As an observer, do not hold on to that emotion. Instead let it melt away in your mind. Surrender it to the universal abyss, and render, or create a new open space for your mind. It does not matter what it looks like as long as it feels like expanding peace. From that point you may create whatever thought or idea that helps you to seal your peace. 

2. Closure: If you need closure, but can not talk to someone to receive it, remember that not everyone heals the same way. Some people need to work on themselves before they can work with another person. Some people need to talk out their problems before they can work on themselves. This might sound disappointing, but you don’t need another person understanding your pain to heal. If someone wronged you, it’s time you face the reason why you feel wronged, and surrender it. Understand the root of the entire problem, and see if there is a cycle to that. Change your lifestyle to make more room for more positive influences. And know that you won’t put yourself in a situation that uproots your situation again. Most conflicts concerning people are usually cyclical.

3. Find a Community: Find people around you that want the best for you: people who are willing to listen, understand, and adapt. The point of finding a positive community is not to feed off of each other, but instead to change your habits, like eating, working, communicating, and so much more.
4. Dedication: Consciously changing yourself is a workout. If you want a healthier body, you’ll have to consciously eat better, and exercise more. If you want to live happier, you have to consciously work out the problems that lie within. No one said that peace didn’t require a little bloodshed, because in actuality, change requires a sacrifice. If you can routinely let go of the drama, healing will become second nature in no time.