Things That Go Bump At Night

When was the last time you woke up in the middle of the night with that eerie feeling that something was going on? Yet, you find yourself swamped, half asleep in the middle of an empty…dark…room.

It’s all in your head…


Not sorry to burst your pleasant ignorance, but when you sense something strange in the air, your gut is telling you to pay attention! It’s about time you start listening, because we humans are in for something bigger.

Midnight Battles. 

Stop ignoring your kids when they say they see something in the closet. The eye of a child is far more interconnected than we like to give them credit for. Maybe that’s why it takes years of conditioning for a kid to understand the reality of this particular society. 

Spiritual entities of many forms exist, and interact with our realm more often than we know. At night, we are more susceptible to their presence. I’ve witnessed spirits hide under beds, station themselves around the bed, on the ceilings, behind a door or even piece of furniture including curtains, follow behind people (more so than not), and even find a favorite room to hide out. 

Have you ever experienced that moment, where you are looking around your room at night, and notice a corner of the room appears darker than the rest? Your mind isn’t playing tricks on you.

What the flip flop is going on?

A lot. There are certain beings that will try to drain you while you sleep. Do you ever wonder why you sleep at night, but never fully feel at rest the next day? It means we’re losing a battle most of us can not see. 

Why? Because you’ve got to feel it. We live in the age of information. Despite the fact that knowledge is everywhere, we may lack discernment towards gaining wisdom out of it. We forget to feel the information we see. 

We Are Experiencing Spiritual Warfare. 

There are beings who don’t want you to reach your potential… or understand why you’re so important. It’s certainly not because of who you believe in, rather it is a matter of whether you believe in yourself too!

Unfortunately, most individuals would like to blame the excessive “programmer” problem on individuals like myself. Last time I checked, I can see them…can you? People like me don’t like the idea of other beings using us like a battery, Matrix style. We’re here to make sure you pay attention, because we need all hands on deck! It’s not okay to be alive and not feel alive, because you’re too afraid to live; even during simple moments like getting water at 5am.

Why is this happening?!

My theory, of many, is that there are a massive amount of people entertaining things that they have no business entertaining. I will go no further to explain that.  

I will, however, tell you what to do the next time your child tells you they are very reasonably afraid of the dark!

Stand your Ground! Make known with your voice and your spirit that there is no place for harmful entities in your home. 

Speak with Confidence. Don’t shrivel up inside. BOOST YOUR ENERGY! Even if part of it is still dormant in the sleep arena.

Never be afraid of the dark. There are beings that feed off your fear. Have you ever seen the movie Monsters inc? Moving on!

Prayers? Spells? Use the metaphysical tool that helps you brighten your home, your life, and your emotions. 

Training Day Starts Now. It’s time to build your chi, your power and your resistance to these night blockers. If you gain further insight on this energetic tragedy, teach people. We are not living in the dark ages anymore. We are not burning at the stake. 

We are here to help!

Tough Learning

Dear Reader, I write a lot of articles to you on healing, discovering self value, and learning the odd perspective. Although I believe in the values of love and light, you must be aware that we need the dark to understand what polar powers mean. Our strength lies in the union of many opposing powers.

So I teach what I have learned by sharing my methods of healing with you: Expressive Writing

To My Old Love Life,

I’ve never been good with introductions to a writing script. There are a lot of things in this world I am not good at. I don’t consider myself to be an intelligent woman; yet I know I’m not stupid, dense, nor dumb.

I am my own person, stubborn, and willing only to learn upon the terms of my own open-door capacity. This letter is all about me…and you. You’ve been on my mind recently. I’ve been trying to figure out if it’s because I miss you. I don’t think that’s why I am here, lost in my own letter. 

Our relationship was doomed from the start. I was too eager to share my experiences with another person. Little did I know it’s because I didn’t know how to be by myself. Well I’ve mastered that art almost a year ago, and now I have many lessons in front of me to ponder on. 

You taught me a lot of things. And for that I’ll forever be grateful. You even taught me significant lessons by exiting my life!

You taught me how to be practical. Before you, I was just a student of life with no real direction and no practical way to make one. By watching you, even in frequent moments when you beat yourself up so bad, I learned the art of self discipline, and the necessity behind it.

I learned to pay more attention, and research more too. I learned how to plan, to budget, and stress. But because of the overwhelming urge to control all things, I also learned, or relearned how to lose some control and how to dismiss expectations. Expectations will not always be met. If that were the case, we’d all be the same people, pursuing the same things. Self expectations are easier to meet, yet harder to commit to. At a certain point in our lives, we know what we deserve; yet how far, exactly are we willing to go to reach those expectations?

You’ve taught me the importance of community. At times with you, I felt so lonely. Your community was not my community. They were a group of humans I spent my energy and time with little to no significant impact on my future, goals, or lifestyle. I learned how much support, love, motivation, and change THE COMMUNITIES around me are willing and able to give and endure once I realized life is more than just people around me, taking up space and time in my schedule. 

I learned how to be by myself. That is one of the greatest sensations of my quarter lifetime. I wouldn’t give that up for a million dollars. While I was by myself I learned to stop being so angry. I always wondered why I was surrounded by so many angry lovers, including yourself. Yes, it takes two to tango, but I know now I don’t deserve to be angry nor in an angry relationship. 

You’ve taught me to stand my ground, and to value myself. We’re both very stubborn, dominating individuals. We argued and fought more than either of us would like to admit. You felt like less than a lover to me. I felt like less than human to you. I never felt fully supported by you. That’s why I always told you I didn’t need you. I felt like less than who I was being around you, especially being around a crowd of people who saw me exactly the way you pictured me, and not the me that I stand as.

I hope you treat your next lover a lot better than you treated me. She doesn’t deserve to carry the weight of your mistrust, nor of your anger, self-resentment, or coldness. She is a new being, wanting to carry love and guidance into your life. You better treat her like the queen you both know she is!

From these hard times, I learned how to build myself on the foundation, that which is me. I am learning to set boundaries, to find what I deserve. I am learning to express myself, and surround myself with those who are willing only to build me up, as I help them grow the same. I created my own queendom where I reign, and all are valued. I’m constantly correcting myself, improving the way I treat others, and Healing what still hurts. I heal others too! And I do a damn good job at it! 

I eat better, I look better, and I drink more wine! My life isn’t perfect, but it’s growing like a tree; old, sturdy, and full of wisdom, with so much more to experience! 

You taught me to look at things for the way that they are, rather than the way I want to see it, or how someone wants me to view it. When I look into someone’s face I no longer indulge in the facade that they created. I see their souls, intentions. I weed out the weak. 

I once read in a notebook you wrote to yourself, that you weren’t afraid of the devil, but you did fear black magick. Sharing the same roof with me, you never understood that I don’t do black magick. Magick is neither white nor black, and I’ve never cast a curse on you. I’ve only ever prayed that you’d be kinder to me, or else. But with or without magick the ‘or else’ part is easy to assume. 

I think about you often, not because I miss you. I think about you often because you were my greatest challenge. You challenged me in ways that have bent my identity, and unintentionally helped me see the sun in me. You pushed me to discomfort and isolation, that influenced me to later become so strong. Then you left, and came, back, left again, and boomeranged your way once again, until I realized I will never let another person have their own way with me. I’ve had enough, and I’d like my power back. So I took it back, and recreated it. 

And here we are!

We were a problem together. But now we can be a solution for other people. I know this relationship was just as taxing on me as it was on you, but I’m willing to bet that you learned quite a few significant things about yourself.

I guess this letter was to thank you, for influencing me to do, and be better for myself. I’m much better off. I don’t need a reply or a call. I just wanted to speak my mind so that I can continue to build a better life… and find clarity for myself, and those willing to receive what I have to offer.

They say once you love someone, you never quite stop loving them. 

So I am, and will always be a lover…and a student.


Recovering Empathy

You have a lot of unpopular opinions. 

You are a separate entity from yourself when no one but the closest ones are looking! That distant part of your identity is locked away in a dark closet, in your basement…in your (imaginary) second house!

Why hide so much? Maybe you feel (or you know very well) that society couldn’t understand why you are the way you are. 

That’s not your fault.

The fault lies in the world for not making empathy a primary learning skill. The fault lies in the lack of societal ability to understand someone, like you can understand yourself. You do… understand yourself after all, right?

Either way, the inability to see other perspectives clearly has been ingrained since childhood. You were accepted as the ego-filled mini-human incapable of deciphering the rules of society until much later. While your guardians filled your mind with impossible goals to achieve, they shielded you from the horrors of life they battled every day until they were too vulnerable to keep the shield up. 

Then you learn about sympathy, tragedy, comedy created from tragedy, and taboos.

Then everything became a taboo. Therefore a part of yourself became a taboo too! 

We left that title in a box, in a corner of the room no one goes to unless they were caught.

It’s time to end all fallacies and taboos: sex is emminate, empathy, like morality, is taught, and we are all seeing the same picture; we simply don’t know how to express that so we can move on in human evolution. 

Stop hiding yourself from the world! People understand what they want to, if it will benefit them. How do we know you won’t benefit others, if you keep yourself locked away?

Side note: I have a lot of unpopular opinions!

Hmm, number one unpopular opinion?

It should be mandatory for every human to work as a restaurant server for at least a full year. 

Why? Because people don’t understand simple things like empathy, or humility. People don’t know how to listen to each other! No wonder robots are calling humans un-conscious! When the mask became the new societal fad, in-person communication became a lot harder. Humans began assuming conversational queues because they lost the patience to understand their neighbor. We might as well evolve human communication and learn sign language!

Why didn’t we learn sign language in primary school? We still have plenty of hearing-impaired individuals in our society.  Why don’t we learn multiple languages and master them in primary school? This nation was built on immigration!

We not only lack empathy for our own companions, but also for ourselves.

Why are we still using plastic, when we know it’s destroying the planet, our ecosystem, and ourselves?

Why aren’t we asking enough questions?

Unpopular opinion number two:

We were taught to divide and conquer. 

We were taught to separate ourselves from one another, and find our differences in language, in culture, race, ideas, and significance. “They’re not important, we are.” “ They don’t see things the way we do.”

Unpopular opinion number three:

We are meant to live WITH and FOR passion!

A lot of what we do now is to prove that we can fit into society. Buy the prettiest houses, cars, get the best careers. Do all of those make you happy? Do you feel passionate about the path of life you are living? Are you doing this for yourself or for others to approve? 

Our passion lies in what we truly want, and whomever we can share this with. Our passion doesn’t have a linear path to success. Our fulfillment is our success. Right now most people do not feel fulfilled… or passionate!

Passion can be shared and cared for in a community. Our passion can be empathized with instead of envied. 

We don’t understand each other enough. We don’t know what the self wants. We know not what the self can do for the other, nor what the other can do for the self. We have lived with walls so thick, we hear what we need to, and listen on occasions. We all want to talk about ourselves, but where to start? Who will empathize? 

You are a brand new species looking for answers and empathy. You are the creator of empathy and change. Let your unpopular opinions out, and seek out those that are willing to listen and learn. While some may think their intentions are to conquer the differences, we will all soon learn the real power behind your hidden passions…uncovered, unhindered. 

To the Self-Critic

My love,

Who told you to be your own worst critic? Whether or not you are aware, you have plenty of opposing forces outside! Why let a familiar face penetrate you…from within? 

Do you look at yourself in the mirror?

Who do you see? When you look deep into your soul’s windows, do you see yourself staring back at you? Do you see a stranger? Are there more?

Do you remember learning about the wars of man’s past, and the catastrophes created thereafter? Left in the dust and ash lay the injured, the dead, and lost.

How do we rebuild from nothing? Where do we start?

When you are at war with yourself, you become the aftermath. Torn down in despair, and discouraged, your mind feels the pain, your organs, bones, joints, even your aura. Lost in the sauce of dismissal, the field of your mind is dusty and dwindled. How long does recovery take? What will come of this change? 

A new definition to the self. 

To be a self critic is to lose a game before playing it. You barely gave yourself a chance! If it were in my power, I’d give you all you deserve and more. Would it mean anything to you once you receive them? Or would you turn away knowing those belong to one more deserving?

In order to oversee self-criticism, we turn to the hearty self discipline. Self criticism derives from the unused energy, wasted in the void of potential. Yet such energy can be transferred and transformed. Not by the critic; but instead by the disciplined. In this new world, layers of strength are constructed, each under a divine message of self-worth.

Where did the self critic come from?

One was created out of the overwhelming expectations of the identity of self. From human to man made, the critic rose to form a new order-the expected.

Where is it going now? 

Where the self can not predict.

Lose control! Deny permission! Let the critic inside know, you are onto them!

You are a being, not a spy to the self. You are unwrapped potential. You are uncovered desire. Every “no”, you hear is a challenge to do a “YES”.

There is no self-criticism. 

There is you, and no other you, living to be the memorable YOU. 

With admiration,


That Moment When…

If you’re reading this, YOU more than likely made a significant impact on at least one person in your life so far. You’re a pretty big deal! To impact the way someone thinks, feels, communicates, or acts is to say the least a single of many reasons why you are here. 

Now think about the people who changed you.  Ponder on the ones that help you smile every day, the ones that always have a piece of guidance with their presence, even the ones who are too goofy to ignore. They help you see the world in a more positive way. They encourage you to carry a piece of them in your personality. And that is how some behavior is created and tweaked! 

Now the same can happen if someone were to negatively impact you, or if you were to burden someone else. The most common way to put a damper on someone’s state of being is by reflecting pain. 

When an individual reflects their pain onto someone, they are first faced with a situation, personality, or a thing that reminds them most closely of a previous experience that led them down a rabbit hole of hell. By pure reaction to their past, one feels entitled enough to repeat or even exaggerate their reaction; but this time it’s towards that “someone” victim. 

When someone reflects their pain onto you, they have no remorse for how they reacted to you, nor how you felt about their reaction. One would excuse their own behavior by explaining how triggered they felt. Still, with no sympathy towards your feelings, this individual will insist on your change in behavior because of a “what if” situation recurring in their future. The victim introduces a new victim, and everyone involved is no better than the moment the situation occurred!

Do you remember all those videos I have warning you against flinging your sack-of-trash emotions to the nearest care bear willing to take you in? WELL, if you’ve ignored my multiple warnings, you are reflecting pain onto someone. 

No time to point fingers!!!

We are all at some point victims. SOMEONE in your life has hurt you because they were hurt by something unrelated to you, and were fearful of you being the object of their fear. Fear can make a lot of people crazy, angry, depressed, and anxious. Seeing as my generation suffers a lot from anxiety, I’m under the assumption that fear isn’t just another Tuesday. Maybe we were born bearing the fear of the generations before us as well.

I’ve had too many instances where someone reflected their pain onto me. From a parent, to an angry coworker, to a jaded ex, I at some point felt like I always had to do something to make sure that person always felt secure. That wasn’t the solution. In my last relationship I gave all that I could to gain the trust I shouldn’t have fought for in the first place! After all, relationships are built on trust.

So heed these words:

If someone NEGATIVELY REACTS to you, and blames their past on it, or compares you to others they have known, walk away from them. They are not upset at you. They are upset at what happened to them, and are unable to move on in that moment. That will NOT be the last time they lash out to you. Save yourself time and energy, and most importantly save your sanity. You have bigger battles to face! *Sassy Snaps*

If you are determined to stick it out for the better, set boundaries! We all want to help those closest to us. But at what cost? Let your agitator know that you have nothing to do with their unresolved past. That is an internal journey they will have to fix for themselves. Here I go, talking about shadow work AGAIN!

Easier said than done, until you learn the difference between reacting and responding. One of my guides taught me that reacting is allowing your emotions to take control of how a situation is handled, while responding is taking the extra step to think about the best way to behave according to the situation, with consideration for the self and those around them. This is very important, as most of us are sensitive beings, and there are too many people in this world to waste energy on one… reactive… SIMPLETON. 

I said it! 

If you are still healing from a past pain, learn to respond to your own triggers instead of lashing out. As a healer I encourage that everyday for myself and my significant other. Some experiences are harder than others, but neither of us got together with the intention of repeating the past. Why should we let the past get in the way of our present? 

You have every bit of strength you need to protect yourself from a pain reflector. You have every ounce of patience to hone and heal the pain inside. It’s time to be a better person not only for yourself, but also the people YOU IMPACT.

Energy Waste

When I was younger, I had a friend always tell me, there are many things we can get back like money. Yet some things in life are unattainable after it is gone. This particular individual had no patience for anyone who set out to waste the sacredtime

I learned a bit from this old friend, because he was right. Life should be taken more kindly to our mortal aching bodies. Somehow, we all seem to take advantage of the future; it will never be quite as we expect it to be. So hats off to you, old friend, for this valuable lesson. But I have found another valuable commodity worth saving for the lives we currently have.


Although energy can neither be created or destroyed, energy is transferred in and outside of ourselves during many moments of our existence. It travels in, and you are thriving, energetic, pulsating, and conquering. When it leaves you, you are exhausted, crashing, shrinking, and sinking within your body that feels on the verge of crumbling. Although energy can always come back to you, it’s always way harder to gain the conquistador vibe. It takes more work, more self care, more careful consideration, AND sacrifice. 

Energy need not be wasted...

When I’m not writing to you, or healing the world one spell at a time, I am a restaurant server. Before this virus situation started, I was serving. And when chaos hit the fan, I was given a chance to understand what life is like when you place your energy in what you love. I wrote, sang, danced, meditated, and for the first time, I opened my mouth. I created Nonna. Who knew that once you look up from your work, there lies a life truly… worth… living?!

I was raised to work hard with everything I do. To this day, I stand by that motto, unless I see the option to work smarter. 

This year I find myself and the people around me being more drained than the day before. Some of us look after our diet. Some of us, our extracurricular activities. But to understand the process of regular holistic healing is to see our life from the WHOLE PICTURE. 

I decided I wanted to be an energy healer, and guide not only because I felt called to bring powerful change in the self, but also to receive the same amount of energy that I give.

As a server living under tips, many people do not understand that we rely on tips to pay our bills, save money, and pay our taxes. People often find it to be an option to tip, but my job is just like yours. When you agree to work somewhere, you expect to be given the amount of pay according to what you’ve agreed to give. There is no agreement in the restaurant, because not every guest understands that tipping is MANDATORY instead of a gracious gesture. When I receive tips, my clients are the ones who give the final call of how much I get paid.

I work for vampires. You more than likely do too. We…give more energy out than is put back into us

This very statement is the reason why many healers today argue over whether their gifts should be given for profit. My dear healers, you came into this world to make it better. How do you expect to put forth the energy to change the grooves in the sand, if you are always losing the force to make it happen? Healers, we are already being watched and hunted down because we are meant to empower each other. Don’t let your passions get in the way of your purpose here.

Energy may come and go, but you deserve more…always. You deserve to look up from the work table and smell the aroma of life. You deserve to understand just what it means to be made of energy, and in control of it. 

The first step to understanding energy is discovering where you put your energy, why, and what you prefer to do with it. Your energy is sacred. You are sacred. Do not let this world turn you into a battery for something other than your own design. 

Sex Entering The Primal Chakras

Let’s stop making sex a taboo. It’s not a learning curve for kids. It is our pure primal instinct. 

I’ve always known that if I were to have kids, I would tell them all all about sex. The ins and outs, the best methods to have sex, and the magic behind it.

Sex magic is becoming a very huge topic in the world of craft because of the rebellious intentions. Let’s face it, new world magick wants you to double take! There’s so much more to it. Before we start running, it’s important to know the basics of the primal force.

Our chakras are meant to align our metaphysical selves, and our connection to the worlds outside of us. When we speak and listen, hug, kiss, and have sex, we are sharing our essence with other beings. Our energy is being transferred with those we are interacting with. Energy elevates when we are passionate, whether angry or happy.

When we have sex, our energy is our of control.

Your body literally pulsates with dopamine. You’re working out your body, your mind, and your chi. Does your body ever tingle in specific areas while your…you know?

So where am I going with this?

While you think you’re just having sex, you are really sharing a metaphysical experience with your partner. You share scents, hormones, emotions, essence, energy, history, and the list goes on. 

We make other humans this way. We give up parts of ourselves to another person. This requires a high level of energy!

I’m not too familiar with the masculine approach to sex, but a number of things occur within a woman.

For a woman, sex changes her body, mental state, and chi. 

Her vagina fits the shape of her lover’s, as if her body is prepared to adapt to another energy. Most women actually struggle to be their own independent person after being in a relationship, almost as if the mind adapted the same way that her yoni did. Her hips and other features may change to make her look and move more robust. And if the connection is right, she will have a pronounced glow

With the mixing of energy, a woman becomes more sensitive to her body’s changes. Her fluids will change, and then change again if something is off. For example, if one partner is playing coitus with an outsider, a woman’s vaginal scent will change. Listen to your body, ladies. 

Do you ever hear about couples in love who somehow start to look like each other? Well, there is some truth to that. As I have already explained, a woman’s body changes to make room for the extra masculine energy. She can also change in physical form after being intimate with someone for some time. Most people see women gain weight after being in a relationship. That part is due to her lifestyle and eating habits changing from another influence. She changes in her appearance too. If she is surrounded by a secure essence she will glow, as her features conform to complement the balance of their relationship. She can also age faster if they are out of balance. Self care has never been more vital for one person.

A woman dominated by her feminine side will live like the moon. She takes in her surroundings, and as she changes, she too has the power to change her surroundings. It is easy to mold your vagina, evolve your physical features, and take on the emotional state of your partner. However, if you play your cards right, you can make a greater emotional impact than you think. 

As an energetic sponge, a woman takes in a load of foreign energy into the womb. Notice that the area is also very close to your solar plexus, the chakra that connects the body to the astral. 

I can feel many things in this area. With fear and guilt, I can feel history flow through me, power emit from me, and spiritual activity attempting to make way into me. My mother often says, she knows when her children aren’t okay when this particular area hurts. One can feel every pull and tug of your emotions in this area. 

When you take on the energy of another through sex, you can also take on their health or ailment. Think about how energetic or exhausted you get immediately after sex. Then think about how you feel a day later. You are no longer just the energy of yourself. Your chakras have melded. What does that say to your mental/emotional state? How does your body respond to that?

Sex is not just an action. It is a phenomenon that affects us in supernatural ways.

The more connected you’re with someone, the greater the impact will make on you. Even simple hookups, though they may seem meaningless, are far more significant than you think.

Sex is natural part of who we are, and how we express ourselves when words can not do justice. Stop trying to hide this vital piece of information to those unaware of sex. It’s best to let our feminine companions know just how deep we run. And let’s not forget about the masculine-dominated individuals.

If any men are willing to share their metaphysical perspective on sex and how it influences you, please feel free to add a comment!

Spirit Guides

Do you ever feel as if you are being watched, whether by an observer, a spy, or a protector?

Believe it or not, someone always has an eye on you. Really… on all of us. It sounds a tad creepy, but you are not the only world in this realm. We live in the middle ground, in between the realities that exist with and without us. 

One of my favorite worlds is the spirit world of GUIDES. 

YES. Spirit guides exist!

What are spirit guides?

Spirit guides are spiritual beings that help us in this tragically conformed society. They help us when we’re having bad days, need answers or ideas, they support us on our best days, and help us to stay on track to being our best selves. Remember that being your best self, is defined by you. The world is here to give you that extra nudge, appraisal, or U-turn!

Spirit guides come in many forms! They can be someone that recently passed, someone from your ancestral bloodline, or someone you look up to! They can be an angel, a demon, a fairy, a god, even your higher self. Spirit guides are not limited to humans or human-like beings. Some even have spirit animals, and other beings. Life too is in the unperceivable. 

Why do we have spirit guides?

Simple. We don’t have a manual to being alive. In my opinion, humans are not as imaginative as we think. We receive inspiration from the outer worlds as well as the universal self; that which is connected to EVERYTHING.

Also! Because gods are busy fighting a war. They’ve got more things to do than spend their waking existence spying on all 8 billion of us. 

Is it real?

A few months ago, I performed energy healing on a client. As I heal others, I begin to shed layers that became hidden due to life…or shall I say society blinding others from all that exists.  With no prior knowledge to his background, I told him about a spirit that surrounds him. A woman, infact. I described her the way that my third eye could see, and to his surprise, I had described his mother who passed away nine years ago. The hair style she had, down to the clothing she was wearing resembled the only photo of her that he had left. To this day I have never seen this photo. I was able to help him identify his spirit guide by his own perception of her; and she wanted me to pass on a message to her son. She is always there. 

Spirit guides are not usually those we know, but when a relationship is strong, or a guide feels drawn to someone’s mission, there they are!

Spirit guides are not always permanent. Some come and go. They go when they feel their job is done, or even if they feel like you’re not listening. Some stay for a lifetime, or many lifetimes. Some spirit guides arrive once you make a new decision for yourself. Like I said, this universe is on your side, whether or not it feels like it. 

I began seeing spirit guides in my early twenties. My great grandmother was one of the first ones I knew of. I saw her in spirit form when I was a child. That is how my mother discovered that she died. It wasn’t until I got older when my great grandmother was visible to me once more. She comes and goes, but I know she is here whenever I need guidance. 

You have spirits guiding you from another realm whether or not you are aware. They are a fleeting thought, an invisible hug, even a pair of eyeglasses that give you the utmost clarity for a single moment. 

It’s time you open your eyes to the possibility of spirit and energy existing in your life. 

Do you want to know your spirit guides? 

Book a Session with us, and Noni Night can help you. 

Your Safe Space

Life can be pretty uncomfortable at times. 

Do you ever feel like there’s no place for you? Not just you, but all of the other versions of you…at the same time. Maybe you like the outdoors, but like me you wouldn’t dare to step outside in the winter.

Who needs below freezing when you can hibernate…right?

Or maybe you’re more of a homebody, but home just isn’t as homey as you’d like it to be? Especially if you’re now working from home!

Where do you go when you need space for only you? No pets, no work, kids, lovers, bills, so on so forth.


Allow me to say that there is nothing wrong with needing space from everything. Life gets pretty overwhelming when you’re always on the run. You should never give up on your personal marathon. Yet, you will need to stop by your favorite caves alongs your path, because you deserve to build yourself even when no one is looking. 

It’s about time you make a safe space for yourself.

Find an area that makes you feel comfortable:

Go to your favorite park, room, cafe, or other quiet place that gives you time to be yourself. It can be outside of your home. If you have multiple places, that’s even better! If you can not find a place that makes you feel comfy, know that you are your own space as well. The way you perceive comfort, is uniquely designed for a unique YOU.

Personalize your Space:

Do something that makes your chosen space, a place for you, even if you share it. Bring your favorite items, and dress up the area while you’re there. Play some music or don’t. And a little aromatherapy can’t hurt. My safe space is my own living room. Even though I may share this space, I personalized a large part of this room to make it my personal dojo. There I set my altar, my candles in every corner of the room, aroma tools all over the house, and crystals in every facet of my home, especially the living room. 

Make time regularly to self-care:

Don’t just think of your safe space. Go there…often! 2020 taught most of us the importance of taking care of ourselves while dealing with a sky full of problems. Exploding with anger, stress, frustration, even depression isn’t worth the energy it takes to rebuild your wall of sanity if you could help to maintain your holistic health in the first place.

Now I know you have a lot of things on your plate, but you can’t do them all at the same time. Take it one step at a time, and not only make time for yourself, but also make that sacred space for your time to be worth it. 

Do you need help finding a safe space? Nonna can help. Contact us. 

Healing Can Be Hard

What do you think of when you see the word healing

Doctors? Therapists? Music? What about…you?

Have you ever thought of how much self-healing you experience in your life? A LITERAL CRAP LOAD.

If I had a nickel for every time you healed, I’d have enough money to sit and write to you everyday

Your body heals when you scrape your knee, or break a bone. You leave a job, a relationship, or a childhood home, and find comfort in a new one. Your life changes, and then changes again, every time something tragic happens. What you call a new normal, your metaphysical self calls evolution.

As I have said before, people evolve differently. Most of the time, we are so caught up with trying to survive in our own world that we evolve to fit the most appropriate patterns to “fix” our immediate problems, only for another one to arise. It’s almost like adulting were meant to be defined by a series of cyclical problems. I guess that’s why they call it the “rat race”. 

As we are subconsciously healing the real problems, our conscious worry-bug minds are peeling the scabs as we think about the other problems. 


The whole point of healing is to make decisions based on your most favorable path of life. Let’s say, for example, you use itching cream twice a day. It’s become a routine for you to use itching cream. It’s not a huge inconvenience, but it takes time and energy away from your day. You’re always thinking about that itch, hoping that little shit will one day disappear for good. Sometimes, you get that invisible itch, in a completely different location, as if it were phantom spreading. But the truth is, that itch just needs to heal to truly go away…not a quick fix itching cream. That’s how your mind works when you haven’t healed from childhood trauma, a very dramatic move, a huge disappointment, or even another breakup. 

But who has time to heal when we have so much going on in life…right?!

Sometimes, while we deal with other “immediate” problems, our mind puts a cap on the more serious, underlying pains. That explains why we have memory blocks, or irrational fears. This even applies to the way we shrink or lash out to the common experiences we are faced with on a daily basis. 

But here’s the truth: You’re holding onto something whether or not you are aware of it, and you need to make the energy to heal. You are your biggest hero.  Although the world around you can help you be a little better or worse you, you hold ALL accountability to actively step out of your mind and heal.

Healing can be hard. It takes actual conditioning for you to step into your multi-faceted being and face your biggest fears, disappointments, sorrows, or resentment. Even after you fix one problem, you’ll come to find that healing becomes a chore. There’s always work to do!

Healing is a way for you to evolve. You are always evolving. Therefore, you are worth the inner work out. 

Healing might be hard work, but here are some tips to work with:

  1. Surrender and Render: I learned this method of healing once by listening to a spiritual being named Elgear. Find something that haunts you. Face that event, then your emotional reaction to it. As an observer, do not hold on to that emotion. Instead let it melt away in your mind. Surrender it to the universal abyss, and render, or create a new open space for your mind. It does not matter what it looks like as long as it feels like expanding peace. From that point you may create whatever thought or idea that helps you to seal your peace. 
  1. Closure: If you need closure, but can not talk to someone to receive it, remember that not everyone heals the same way. Some people need to work on themselves before they can work with another person. Some people need to talk out their problems before they can work on themselves. This might sound disappointing, but you don’t need another person understanding your pain to heal. If someone wronged you, it’s time you face the reason why you feel wronged, and surrender it. Understand the root of the entire problem, and see if there is a cycle to that. Change your lifestyle to make more room for more positive influences. And know that you won’t put yourself in a situation that uproots your situation again. Most conflicts concerning people are usually cyclical.
  1. Find a Community: Find people around you that want the best for you: people who are willing to listen, understand, and adapt. The point of finding a positive community is not to feed off of each other, but instead to change your habits, like eating, working, communicating, and so much more.
  2. Dedication: Consciously changing yourself is a workout. If you want a healthier body, you’ll have to consciously eat better, and exercise more. If you want to live happier, you have to consciously work out the problems that lie within. No one said that peace didn’t require a little bloodshed, because in actuality, change requires a sacrifice. If you can routinely let go of the drama, healing will become second nature in no time.