That Moment When…

If you’re reading this, YOU more than likely made a significant impact on at least one person in your life so far. You’re a pretty big deal! To impact the way someone thinks, feels, communicates, or acts is to say the least a single of many reasons why you are here. 

Now think about the people who changed you.  Ponder on the ones that help you smile every day, the ones that always have a piece of guidance with their presence, even the ones who are too goofy to ignore. They help you see the world in a more positive way. They encourage you to carry a piece of them in your personality. And that is how some behavior is created and tweaked! 

Now the same can happen if someone were to negatively impact you, or if you were to burden someone else. The most common way to put a damper on someone’s state of being is by reflecting pain. 

When an individual reflects their pain onto someone, they are first faced with a situation, personality, or a thing that reminds them most closely of a previous experience that led them down a rabbit hole of hell. By pure reaction to their past, one feels entitled enough to repeat or even exaggerate their reaction; but this time it’s towards that “someone” victim. 

When someone reflects their pain onto you, they have no remorse for how they reacted to you, nor how you felt about their reaction. One would excuse their own behavior by explaining how triggered they felt. Still, with no sympathy towards your feelings, this individual will insist on your change in behavior because of a “what if” situation recurring in their future. The victim introduces a new victim, and everyone involved is no better than the moment the situation occurred!

Do you remember all those videos I have warning you against flinging your sack-of-trash emotions to the nearest care bear willing to take you in? WELL, if you’ve ignored my multiple warnings, you are reflecting pain onto someone. 

No time to point fingers!!!

We are all at some point victims. SOMEONE in your life has hurt you because they were hurt by something unrelated to you, and were fearful of you being the object of their fear. Fear can make a lot of people crazy, angry, depressed, and anxious. Seeing as my generation suffers a lot from anxiety, I’m under the assumption that fear isn’t just another Tuesday. Maybe we were born bearing the fear of the generations before us as well.

I’ve had too many instances where someone reflected their pain onto me. From a parent, to an angry coworker, to a jaded ex, I at some point felt like I always had to do something to make sure that person always felt secure. That wasn’t the solution. In my last relationship I gave all that I could to gain the trust I shouldn’t have fought for in the first place! After all, relationships are built on trust.

So heed these words:

If someone NEGATIVELY REACTS to you, and blames their past on it, or compares you to others they have known, walk away from them. They are not upset at you. They are upset at what happened to them, and are unable to move on in that moment. That will NOT be the last time they lash out to you. Save yourself time and energy, and most importantly save your sanity. You have bigger battles to face! *Sassy Snaps*

If you are determined to stick it out for the better, set boundaries! We all want to help those closest to us. But at what cost? Let your agitator know that you have nothing to do with their unresolved past. That is an internal journey they will have to fix for themselves. Here I go, talking about shadow work AGAIN!

Easier said than done, until you learn the difference between reacting and responding. One of my guides taught me that reacting is allowing your emotions to take control of how a situation is handled, while responding is taking the extra step to think about the best way to behave according to the situation, with consideration for the self and those around them. This is very important, as most of us are sensitive beings, and there are too many people in this world to waste energy on one… reactive… SIMPLETON. 

I said it! 

If you are still healing from a past pain, learn to respond to your own triggers instead of lashing out. As a healer I encourage that everyday for myself and my significant other. Some experiences are harder than others, but neither of us got together with the intention of repeating the past. Why should we let the past get in the way of our present? 

You have every bit of strength you need to protect yourself from a pain reflector. You have every ounce of patience to hone and heal the pain inside. It’s time to be a better person not only for yourself, but also the people YOU IMPACT.

Energy Waste

When I was younger, I had a friend always tell me, there are many things we can get back like money. Yet some things in life are unattainable after it is gone. This particular individual had no patience for anyone who set out to waste the sacredtime

I learned a bit from this old friend, because he was right. Life should be taken more kindly to our mortal aching bodies. Somehow, we all seem to take advantage of the future; it will never be quite as we expect it to be. So hats off to you, old friend, for this valuable lesson. But I have found another valuable commodity worth saving for the lives we currently have.


Although energy can neither be created or destroyed, energy is transferred in and outside of ourselves during many moments of our existence. It travels in, and you are thriving, energetic, pulsating, and conquering. When it leaves you, you are exhausted, crashing, shrinking, and sinking within your body that feels on the verge of crumbling. Although energy can always come back to you, it’s always way harder to gain the conquistador vibe. It takes more work, more self care, more careful consideration, AND sacrifice. 

Energy need not be wasted...

When I’m not writing to you, or healing the world one spell at a time, I am a restaurant server. Before this virus situation started, I was serving. And when chaos hit the fan, I was given a chance to understand what life is like when you place your energy in what you love. I wrote, sang, danced, meditated, and for the first time, I opened my mouth. I created Nonna. Who knew that once you look up from your work, there lies a life truly… worth… living?!

I was raised to work hard with everything I do. To this day, I stand by that motto, unless I see the option to work smarter. 

This year I find myself and the people around me being more drained than the day before. Some of us look after our diet. Some of us, our extracurricular activities. But to understand the process of regular holistic healing is to see our life from the WHOLE PICTURE. 

I decided I wanted to be an energy healer, and guide not only because I felt called to bring powerful change in the self, but also to receive the same amount of energy that I give.

As a server living under tips, many people do not understand that we rely on tips to pay our bills, save money, and pay our taxes. People often find it to be an option to tip, but my job is just like yours. When you agree to work somewhere, you expect to be given the amount of pay according to what you’ve agreed to give. There is no agreement in the restaurant, because not every guest understands that tipping is MANDATORY instead of a gracious gesture. When I receive tips, my clients are the ones who give the final call of how much I get paid.

I work for vampires. You more than likely do too. We…give more energy out than is put back into us

This very statement is the reason why many healers today argue over whether their gifts should be given for profit. My dear healers, you came into this world to make it better. How do you expect to put forth the energy to change the grooves in the sand, if you are always losing the force to make it happen? Healers, we are already being watched and hunted down because we are meant to empower each other. Don’t let your passions get in the way of your purpose here.

Energy may come and go, but you deserve more…always. You deserve to look up from the work table and smell the aroma of life. You deserve to understand just what it means to be made of energy, and in control of it. 

The first step to understanding energy is discovering where you put your energy, why, and what you prefer to do with it. Your energy is sacred. You are sacred. Do not let this world turn you into a battery for something other than your own design. 

Sex Entering The Primal Chakras

Let’s stop making sex a taboo. It’s not a learning curve for kids. It is our pure primal instinct. 

I’ve always known that if I were to have kids, I would tell them all all about sex. The ins and outs, the best methods to have sex, and the magic behind it.

Sex magic is becoming a very huge topic in the world of craft because of the rebellious intentions. Let’s face it, new world magick wants you to double take! There’s so much more to it. Before we start running, it’s important to know the basics of the primal force.

Our chakras are meant to align our metaphysical selves, and our connection to the worlds outside of us. When we speak and listen, hug, kiss, and have sex, we are sharing our essence with other beings. Our energy is being transferred with those we are interacting with. Energy elevates when we are passionate, whether angry or happy.

When we have sex, our energy is our of control.

Your body literally pulsates with dopamine. You’re working out your body, your mind, and your chi. Does your body ever tingle in specific areas while your…you know?

So where am I going with this?

While you think you’re just having sex, you are really sharing a metaphysical experience with your partner. You share scents, hormones, emotions, essence, energy, history, and the list goes on. 

We make other humans this way. We give up parts of ourselves to another person. This requires a high level of energy!

I’m not too familiar with the masculine approach to sex, but a number of things occur within a woman.

For a woman, sex changes her body, mental state, and chi. 

Her vagina fits the shape of her lover’s, as if her body is prepared to adapt to another energy. Most women actually struggle to be their own independent person after being in a relationship, almost as if the mind adapted the same way that her yoni did. Her hips and other features may change to make her look and move more robust. And if the connection is right, she will have a pronounced glow

With the mixing of energy, a woman becomes more sensitive to her body’s changes. Her fluids will change, and then change again if something is off. For example, if one partner is playing coitus with an outsider, a woman’s vaginal scent will change. Listen to your body, ladies. 

Do you ever hear about couples in love who somehow start to look like each other? Well, there is some truth to that. As I have already explained, a woman’s body changes to make room for the extra masculine energy. She can also change in physical form after being intimate with someone for some time. Most people see women gain weight after being in a relationship. That part is due to her lifestyle and eating habits changing from another influence. She changes in her appearance too. If she is surrounded by a secure essence she will glow, as her features conform to complement the balance of their relationship. She can also age faster if they are out of balance. Self care has never been more vital for one person.

A woman dominated by her feminine side will live like the moon. She takes in her surroundings, and as she changes, she too has the power to change her surroundings. It is easy to mold your vagina, evolve your physical features, and take on the emotional state of your partner. However, if you play your cards right, you can make a greater emotional impact than you think. 

As an energetic sponge, a woman takes in a load of foreign energy into the womb. Notice that the area is also very close to your solar plexus, the chakra that connects the body to the astral. 

I can feel many things in this area. With fear and guilt, I can feel history flow through me, power emit from me, and spiritual activity attempting to make way into me. My mother often says, she knows when her children aren’t okay when this particular area hurts. One can feel every pull and tug of your emotions in this area. 

When you take on the energy of another through sex, you can also take on their health or ailment. Think about how energetic or exhausted you get immediately after sex. Then think about how you feel a day later. You are no longer just the energy of yourself. Your chakras have melded. What does that say to your mental/emotional state? How does your body respond to that?

Sex is not just an action. It is a phenomenon that affects us in supernatural ways.

The more connected you’re with someone, the greater the impact will make on you. Even simple hookups, though they may seem meaningless, are far more significant than you think.

Sex is natural part of who we are, and how we express ourselves when words can not do justice. Stop trying to hide this vital piece of information to those unaware of sex. It’s best to let our feminine companions know just how deep we run. And let’s not forget about the masculine-dominated individuals.

If any men are willing to share their metaphysical perspective on sex and how it influences you, please feel free to add a comment!

Spirit Guides

Do you ever feel as if you are being watched, whether by an observer, a spy, or a protector?

Believe it or not, someone always has an eye on you. Really… on all of us. It sounds a tad creepy, but you are not the only world in this realm. We live in the middle ground, in between the realities that exist with and without us. 

One of my favorite worlds is the spirit world of GUIDES. 

YES. Spirit guides exist!

What are spirit guides?

Spirit guides are spiritual beings that help us in this tragically conformed society. They help us when we’re having bad days, need answers or ideas, they support us on our best days, and help us to stay on track to being our best selves. Remember that being your best self, is defined by you. The world is here to give you that extra nudge, appraisal, or U-turn!

Spirit guides come in many forms! They can be someone that recently passed, someone from your ancestral bloodline, or someone you look up to! They can be an angel, a demon, a fairy, a god, even your higher self. Spirit guides are not limited to humans or human-like beings. Some even have spirit animals, and other beings. Life too is in the unperceivable. 

Why do we have spirit guides?

Simple. We don’t have a manual to being alive. In my opinion, humans are not as imaginative as we think. We receive inspiration from the outer worlds as well as the universal self; that which is connected to EVERYTHING.

Also! Because gods are busy fighting a war. They’ve got more things to do than spend their waking existence spying on all 8 billion of us. 

Is it real?

A few months ago, I performed energy healing on a client. As I heal others, I begin to shed layers that became hidden due to life…or shall I say society blinding others from all that exists.  With no prior knowledge to his background, I told him about a spirit that surrounds him. A woman, infact. I described her the way that my third eye could see, and to his surprise, I had described his mother who passed away nine years ago. The hair style she had, down to the clothing she was wearing resembled the only photo of her that he had left. To this day I have never seen this photo. I was able to help him identify his spirit guide by his own perception of her; and she wanted me to pass on a message to her son. She is always there. 

Spirit guides are not usually those we know, but when a relationship is strong, or a guide feels drawn to someone’s mission, there they are!

Spirit guides are not always permanent. Some come and go. They go when they feel their job is done, or even if they feel like you’re not listening. Some stay for a lifetime, or many lifetimes. Some spirit guides arrive once you make a new decision for yourself. Like I said, this universe is on your side, whether or not it feels like it. 

I began seeing spirit guides in my early twenties. My great grandmother was one of the first ones I knew of. I saw her in spirit form when I was a child. That is how my mother discovered that she died. It wasn’t until I got older when my great grandmother was visible to me once more. She comes and goes, but I know she is here whenever I need guidance. 

You have spirits guiding you from another realm whether or not you are aware. They are a fleeting thought, an invisible hug, even a pair of eyeglasses that give you the utmost clarity for a single moment. 

It’s time you open your eyes to the possibility of spirit and energy existing in your life. 

Do you want to know your spirit guides? 

Book a Session with us, and Noni Night can help you. 

Your Safe Space

Life can be pretty uncomfortable at times. 

Do you ever feel like there’s no place for you? Not just you, but all of the other versions of you…at the same time. Maybe you like the outdoors, but like me you wouldn’t dare to step outside in the winter.

Who needs below freezing when you can hibernate…right?

Or maybe you’re more of a homebody, but home just isn’t as homey as you’d like it to be? Especially if you’re now working from home!

Where do you go when you need space for only you? No pets, no work, kids, lovers, bills, so on so forth.


Allow me to say that there is nothing wrong with needing space from everything. Life gets pretty overwhelming when you’re always on the run. You should never give up on your personal marathon. Yet, you will need to stop by your favorite caves alongs your path, because you deserve to build yourself even when no one is looking. 

It’s about time you make a safe space for yourself.

Find an area that makes you feel comfortable:

Go to your favorite park, room, cafe, or other quiet place that gives you time to be yourself. It can be outside of your home. If you have multiple places, that’s even better! If you can not find a place that makes you feel comfy, know that you are your own space as well. The way you perceive comfort, is uniquely designed for a unique YOU.

Personalize your Space:

Do something that makes your chosen space, a place for you, even if you share it. Bring your favorite items, and dress up the area while you’re there. Play some music or don’t. And a little aromatherapy can’t hurt. My safe space is my own living room. Even though I may share this space, I personalized a large part of this room to make it my personal dojo. There I set my altar, my candles in every corner of the room, aroma tools all over the house, and crystals in every facet of my home, especially the living room. 

Make time regularly to self-care:

Don’t just think of your safe space. Go there…often! 2020 taught most of us the importance of taking care of ourselves while dealing with a sky full of problems. Exploding with anger, stress, frustration, even depression isn’t worth the energy it takes to rebuild your wall of sanity if you could help to maintain your holistic health in the first place.

Now I know you have a lot of things on your plate, but you can’t do them all at the same time. Take it one step at a time, and not only make time for yourself, but also make that sacred space for your time to be worth it. 

Do you need help finding a safe space? Nonna can help. Contact us. 

Healing Can Be Hard

What do you think of when you see the word healing

Doctors? Therapists? Music? What about…you?

Have you ever thought of how much self-healing you experience in your life? A LITERAL CRAP LOAD.

If I had a nickel for every time you healed, I’d have enough money to sit and write to you everyday

Your body heals when you scrape your knee, or break a bone. You leave a job, a relationship, or a childhood home, and find comfort in a new one. Your life changes, and then changes again, every time something tragic happens. What you call a new normal, your metaphysical self calls evolution.

As I have said before, people evolve differently. Most of the time, we are so caught up with trying to survive in our own world that we evolve to fit the most appropriate patterns to “fix” our immediate problems, only for another one to arise. It’s almost like adulting were meant to be defined by a series of cyclical problems. I guess that’s why they call it the “rat race”. 

As we are subconsciously healing the real problems, our conscious worry-bug minds are peeling the scabs as we think about the other problems. 


The whole point of healing is to make decisions based on your most favorable path of life. Let’s say, for example, you use itching cream twice a day. It’s become a routine for you to use itching cream. It’s not a huge inconvenience, but it takes time and energy away from your day. You’re always thinking about that itch, hoping that little shit will one day disappear for good. Sometimes, you get that invisible itch, in a completely different location, as if it were phantom spreading. But the truth is, that itch just needs to heal to truly go away…not a quick fix itching cream. That’s how your mind works when you haven’t healed from childhood trauma, a very dramatic move, a huge disappointment, or even another breakup. 

But who has time to heal when we have so much going on in life…right?!

Sometimes, while we deal with other “immediate” problems, our mind puts a cap on the more serious, underlying pains. That explains why we have memory blocks, or irrational fears. This even applies to the way we shrink or lash out to the common experiences we are faced with on a daily basis. 

But here’s the truth: You’re holding onto something whether or not you are aware of it, and you need to make the energy to heal. You are your biggest hero.  Although the world around you can help you be a little better or worse you, you hold ALL accountability to actively step out of your mind and heal.

Healing can be hard. It takes actual conditioning for you to step into your multi-faceted being and face your biggest fears, disappointments, sorrows, or resentment. Even after you fix one problem, you’ll come to find that healing becomes a chore. There’s always work to do!

Healing is a way for you to evolve. You are always evolving. Therefore, you are worth the inner work out. 

Healing might be hard work, but here are some tips to work with:

  1. Surrender and Render: I learned this method of healing once by listening to a spiritual being named Elgear. Find something that haunts you. Face that event, then your emotional reaction to it. As an observer, do not hold on to that emotion. Instead let it melt away in your mind. Surrender it to the universal abyss, and render, or create a new open space for your mind. It does not matter what it looks like as long as it feels like expanding peace. From that point you may create whatever thought or idea that helps you to seal your peace. 
  1. Closure: If you need closure, but can not talk to someone to receive it, remember that not everyone heals the same way. Some people need to work on themselves before they can work with another person. Some people need to talk out their problems before they can work on themselves. This might sound disappointing, but you don’t need another person understanding your pain to heal. If someone wronged you, it’s time you face the reason why you feel wronged, and surrender it. Understand the root of the entire problem, and see if there is a cycle to that. Change your lifestyle to make more room for more positive influences. And know that you won’t put yourself in a situation that uproots your situation again. Most conflicts concerning people are usually cyclical.
  1. Find a Community: Find people around you that want the best for you: people who are willing to listen, understand, and adapt. The point of finding a positive community is not to feed off of each other, but instead to change your habits, like eating, working, communicating, and so much more.
  2. Dedication: Consciously changing yourself is a workout. If you want a healthier body, you’ll have to consciously eat better, and exercise more. If you want to live happier, you have to consciously work out the problems that lie within. No one said that peace didn’t require a little bloodshed, because in actuality, change requires a sacrifice. If you can routinely let go of the drama, healing will become second nature in no time.

The Programmers and You

Do you ever feel like a muppet? You’re very real to yourself and everyone around you, but you’re still attached to… strings! You’re still not you.

What does that mean?

It means you’re not the controller of your charming muppet self. You’ve been riding the backseat for as long as you can remember based on the most appropriate ways to react to life’s events. Yet, the backseat personality that you are so used to playing is your default. That is all you know!

Time to tune into the truth: You are whomever you train yourself to be. You are reinforced to train yourself based on your programmers.

As children we are all raised based on the rearing of our guardians. We ask questions to an extent, but mostly follow orders. They are our leaders after all! For a long time we believe that we should be exactly what our environment asks of us, in order to fit in with everyone else, and get the attainable future. The problem now is, we are so focused on the future and what we will be then, that we forget we are still in default-mode!

Your rearing environment is your first programmer.

Your habitual responses are your second, and more constant ones. 

Some of us rebels become everything that our parents did not plan. From that point on we begin a new cycle in our mind, following a persona that directly opposes our upbringing. The programmers of your childhood are silent for the time being. Once you are ready to find peace with your past, they shall return. Until then, you have entertained a new set of programmers. They will egg you on until you see the end of that particular rebellion. A lot of people go through this stage. We recognize them as our angry teenagers, spiritual explorers, promiscuous individuals, and the list goes on. How spicy!

Then life knocks on your door again. If you are a winner of maturation, you are ready for another internal revolutionary stage!

If you are not so comfortable with change in your life, you are overrun by your programmers.

Your feelings are based on the responses of your emotional patterns. You learn these patterns from those around you (eg. your friends, your family, and your emotionally intense connections). You internalize the most stimulating patterns based on experiences. You are then tuned into the thoughts of the many possible outcomes of life. Yet, you focus on the most emotionally reactive thoughts in your mind, let’s say “for survival sake”, even if they are unhealthy thoughts, and far from possible. Yet, you acknowledge that those are YOUR THOUGHTS, YOUR FEELINGS, AND YOUR PERSONALITY.

Why are you thinking these thoughts?

You have a relationship with your programmers. You are the radio waves picking up on most familiar networks. Your thoughts are not even your thoughts most of the time. You’re playing backseat again in your mind, and now you don’t know who you are!

The secret is, that you have been mentally/emotionally conditioned since the day that you landed on this plane. 

You were taught many things in life, including how to follow what you want. But you were not told that you can be anything by allowing yourself to be the change. 

The world around us needs a lot of change.

As of late, it appears as if we have less and less control over our own lives. We have become control freaks for everything around us so that we don’t get sucked in! Yet, how are you controlling yourself throughout it all?

The real change starts within. Be the programmer! Be the muppeteer! You are living YOUR LIFE in YOUR BODY. That’s a lot of power!

Being the change you want is not as easy as turning on a switch, unless you’re a pretty good actor. It requires you to let go of those “closet homies” that overstayed their welcome in your mind. It’s okay. Look at it square in the face, and know that you are not that. It’s time to tune into a different program. 

You will have to practice how you want to speak to yourself and others, how you want to act…everywhere, and most importantly what YOU want to think about. 

I make videos to influence you to hop out of the backseat. Start thinking about things that used to scare you in the past. Why did it terrify you? How much control will you allow it to have over you now?

You are not your programmers. You are evolving. You ARE the Programmer. 

Humble Human

Learning curves are the waves of your life. 

We are surrounded by mounds of knowledge from which to learn, relearn, contradict with ourselves and others, and once more reorganize our reasoning for life. 

There is nothing wrong with that. YOU are here to evolve more than once in a single lifetime!

It’s okay sometimes to say that you don’t have all of the answers. The universe is here to teach you that you will always fathom more than the socially conceivable. Yes. You deserve more. Yet, the lovely universe also wants you to know that it’s not all about you

We’re in this together.

Be nice! Be respectful! And don’t put too many expectations on others; sometimes even we disappoint ourselves. 

Please remember humility.

Do you remember that time when Universe put you on your butt, just to show you that you’re being a little too extra? That could have been the moment you hit rock bottom. Or maybe the lesson was a little more subtle, like a tiny epiphany during a conversation with a stranger. Life doesn’t want to teach you humility every now and again. It wants you to remember so that you don’t have to fall so many times! 

Humility is the way one understands how important we are to each other. It’s a way to take life a little less seriously because we can’t control everything. It’s a way to enjoy the smaller things while we’re in route to acquiring the bigger things. Humility is that fresh of breath air for someone else… not just you; because sometimes we all need a break from the typical human experience.

The most humbling experience I’ve had was being a restaurant server. It’s not like donating, or giving your time to help out the unfortunate. It’s like struggling to grab your own life on the inside, while you’re smiling on the outside. 

You’re smiling when your table asks you for an item EVERY time you come back to them. You’re smiling when someone cracks an offensive joke. You’re smiling when some perv grabs your waist. You’re smiling after someone tips you 3% off a bill, because you have more clients to attend to. You’re smiling, and apologizing, when someone yells at you over food that you didn’t cook or drop off to their table. You go home, scrub off the dried food still stuck on you from a few hours ago, and the cycle repeats. 

I’m sure the 9-5 rat race is no easier, but there is a special level of empathy someone gains after working in a restaurant. If you ever want a crash course in humility, become a server. After all, I’ve had clients throw a fit for not calling them ma’am, mrs. whatever, or dr. who cares, because they feel so honored on their first visit to be recognized above others. Typically those individuals who expect to be treated like royalty barely ever tip like royalty… Humility.

Humility is that balance between knowing you are amazing, and knowing what to do with your amazingness. It says, you deserve better, but please remember to teach others this very lesson. As you are the influencer in your world, you have the responsibility to influence wisely through your power.

Yes!! You have POWER! Awaken, my love!

Know your power. Understand how to use it in as many ways as you can. Allow humility to be the guide of your embracing journey. Then you will see that you have no weaknesses; just a new way to see the paths ahead. 

Your Imagination

A child’s imagination is their only reality for a very long time. 

When my older sister was a child, she had an imaginary friend for a couple of years. I like to think their relationship became a little strained after my mom became pregnant. My sister’s friend was adamant about not having another human in the house. In fact, my sister once pushed my pregnant mom down the stairs, and apologized immediately after, stating that her friend didn’t think it was a good idea to have a little brother in the family.

Looking at this from the outside, it could signify my sister’s underlying fear of having another child in the house, knowing that the attention will be redirected from her to my brother. It could also mean that my sister’s imaginary friend was really a ghost on a vendetta against my mom. I’m not a professional, but I am a true believer in childhood magic. One’s reality is endless; yet their perception is the most imperative mindset to acknowledge. 

In these critical stages of a child’s life, their imagination is their reality. Imagine coming into a world and forming ideas about everything through your own curiosity and observation. Most of that dies when we get older and live by the way that people tell us things are. Before then, there exists childhood magic.

As an adult, most magic has been locked away. We get told what to do, so that we can hopefully one day tell other people the same thing, continuing a cycle that someone else initially started. As fun as the real adult world is *yawn*, I find there is something genuinely empowering about being your own rebel to yourself now. 

Most if not all of us have a lot of deep rooted issues that carry into our life now, whether that may be how we treat others, how we treat ourselves, and the decisions we make everyday. As much as we like to think our hands are tied with our destiny, we fail to realize that there are many things we do have control of. 

Now why am I bringing up your past? “Aren’t we looking towards the future?”

Your future is directly affected by the decisions you make in your present. But your present could be better, if you were to stop ignoring the past. 

Your job is not only to resolve your childhood trauma, but to also get in touch with the child that had no cares in the world about how other people told them the world should be. Your role is not to recreate a reality that doesn’t suit you now. Instead, it is to tap into the state of mind that wants to be the student and teacher of your own reality. Ask yourself a million questions, and always end in “WHY?!” Create a million worlds in your mind, relate it to the state you are in now, and allow yourself to process different situations using the many worlds that you control or are not in control of. 

There’s something bold about childhood magic. No adult wants to take that away from adorable kiddo you. Yet as an adult, it is your job to be the protector of it. 

“Why would I want to do that?”

You forgot how much control you have in your life. You forgot how to think outside the box because the world told you there are only a few ways to get to where you need to be. While you are not in control of EVERYTHING, you definitely have more power; you just gave it away because someone told you it would guarantee a better path for you. How’s that working out?

This is your time to shine. Bring back the imagination of a million worlds with the maturity and security you have developed with age. Now is not the time to be a big kid, but to bring out the old, resolve the unrequited, and make anew to be the true you.

How To Clear Your Mind

Your mind is a little fickle. 

We see all these cool things that human beings are capable of thinking and doing; yet when we look at ourselves, we think little to nothing about our superpowers. We all want superpowers that will help us to live a more convenient life. But “no, these things aren’t real!” What if I told you mind control is real? 

Let me take that a step further. What if I told you in order to control minds, you first have to learn to control your own? 

Okay, you got me. I’m not actually going to teach you to control minds in this article, but I’ll show you how to gain more control over your own mind.

Your mind is a median between this world and many others. The thoughts you have are a reflection of the worlds you live in, your response to it, and outside influences based on the decisions you make. Sounds like a lot! That’s because it is! Your mind is far more significant than you think it is! Recreating your reality by controlling your mind is a very real thing! It requires a conscious decision to learn, relearn, and recreate that which you need for yourself.

It’s time to clear your mind.

Your mind picks up garbage every day…in every moment as you feed it with your own emotions and your surroundings. It’s time you learn to clean house.


There are so many definitions of surrendering. When you surrender to clear your mind, you are taking charge of your mind by letting go of what does not serve you in a positive way. 

Let’s focus on one method. Get comfortable in whatever way that means. Now close your eyes and get into your mind. If you hear a million voices speaking at once, start by listening to one. What does it have to say? Does it make you feel bad, annoyed, or anxious? Why? Move onto another. You may have a million voices saying the same thing in so many ways. Ask yourself what the main problem is of these many voices.

Concentrate on your thoughts and your inner emotions to find the source (or thought) of demise within. Listen to it. Acknowledge what you feel inside. Now, surrender it. Allow this voice to fade into nothingness. It is no longer a part of you because it doesn’t serve you. You have just learned the art of releasing!

Continue this process until you feel an obvious difference in your mind: Clarity.


Rendering is the art of creating something out of nothing along your path. A friend of mine once explained rendering like playing minecraft. You don’t know what lies in another place until you are physically there. Until then, the beyond is a big blur waiting for you to explore. In a perfect world, this is exactly how we should perceive the present- without any concern or fear towards the past or future. It’s all about NOW. 

Imagine your mind as the big blur, yet the only way of reaching that which is rendered is by creating it yourself. 

Get comfy once more, and close your eyes. Imagine you are in a realm of blank. What do you want to fill your mind with? Now is not the time to let the previous voices to appear. They are gone, and what you desire is waiting for you to paint your canvas. Fill your thoughts with positive scenarios, ideas, and voices that root for you every time you have an internal monologue. Fill it with as little or as much as you’d like. The point of this exercise is to show you how much power you have over your thoughts.

Make this a habit.

Surender and render whenever the mental garbage bin gets too high. You have every inch of power to control what you think about. Your mental capacity is a direct reflection of your reality. You will start to notice different things in your environment by practicing this. You will see greater things attracting you. You will also encounter bigger challenges, because you are ready for more! 

Acquiring better begins with knowing that you deserve better. That’s one fleeting thought in a crowd of conflict. The next step is to be the better change you want. You will then attract better. A new cycle begins with you!